There is nothing more painful than losing a friend. I’m not talking about losing a friend to death, but the death of a friendship.
Years ago my closest friend abruptly stopped speaking to me. I called and left several messages for her and she didn’t return any of my calls. I sent her emails and I finally sent her a letter. I heard crickets. I was hurt. After a while my hurt turned to anger because I knew that I hadn’t done anything wrong to deserve her throwing our friendship away, without an explanation. Life went on, but I thought about her often. I would pass by her street and would wonder how she was doing. I had other friends that I spent time with, but our friendship was different. Our lives were parallel on many levels, but we were opposites: I am very outgoing and she was very quiet. We loved each other like sisters. We never fought nor had a disagreement, so it was even more disturbing why she dropped off the radar.
After a year or so I moved from the area and one day when I was in Los Angeles, I felt led to stop by and see her. I’m glad I did. I mustered up my courage and walked to her door and knocked on her screen. I then heard her repeating, ‘Oh my goodness. I don’t believe this’. And when she opened the door, no words were spoken, we simply hugged each other and cried. She later revealed that when I knocked on her door she had just prayed and asked God to send her a friend like me. He answered her prayer quickly and answered it beyond what she had asked by sending me and not someone similar to me. I learned that she had hit a rough patch in life and pulled back from me and everyone else rather than drawing closer in her time of need. We picked up that day just where we left off and our friendship has never been stronger.
Take action now: “Be devoted to each other like a loving family. Excel in showing respect for each other” (God’s Word Translation).
Embrace this truth: Make sure your friends know they have a safe place with you and don’t be too proud to take the first step toward restoring a friendship.