“Standing Out vs. Fitting In”

I hosted a teen girls’ conference this past March and one of the topics that was discussed was “Standing Out vs. Fitting In”. I chose this topic because I remember my middle school and high school years as being an unending quest to fit in with my peers. I wanted to be accepted by the cool kids yet I was embraced more readily by the nerds! Many of the kids that I wanted to fit in with regularly ditched classes. The nerds gladly went to class every day, and sat in the front – near the teacher. What’s funny to me now is that I seek out a seat in or near the front now. I realize that there are fewer distractions in the front.

While I was trying to fit in with those who were headed nowhere fast, God had already charted out the path for me to take. All I had to do was be willing to follow. After many twists and turns, I finally yielded my life to God and realized that it is more important to stand out than to fit in.

Take action now: Don’t wait for others to confirm or understand your destiny. God has already established your future and it’s full of promise. “A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps” (Proverbs 16:9).

Embrace this truth: Everyone’s journey is unique. Let’s be patient while we all find our way.


“Despicable Me”

I spend a great deal of time commuting to and from work, so I am privvy to the antics and interesting behaviors of others who also commute. Sometimes I see and hear people do things that make me raise an eyebrow at them and wonder if they realize how their actions are being perceived others. Or better yet, do they even care how others perceive them?

I like to think that I’m considerate of others and I try to be aware of how my actions or words affect those around me. I have sometimes been perceived as pushy or bossy and being pushy or bossy has never been my intention. I would prefer to think of myself as being one who doesn’t mind stepping up to the plate or one who is not afraid to take charge. That sounds a lot better than bossy, doesn’t it? I often hear people say that they don’t care what others think about them, but I think it’s a good idea to take into consideration the perception that others have of you and to think about how your actions are usually a result of how you feel about yourself.

Take action now: Be honest with yourself and if you need an attitude adjustment, don’t be too proud to take the steps to adjust it. Remember:  “he who says he remains in Him ought himself also to walk just like He walked.” (1 John 2:6)

Embrace this truth:  Being a Christian means to be Christ-like. Let that truth guide your actions each day.