A friend and I were recently discussing the fact that many of us were brought up with the teaching that you should avoid conflict, keep quiet and sweep things under the rug. That way of thinking has convinced many to believe that by ignoring problems they will simply go away. Simply stated, if you don’t talk about something, it will heal itself. Unfortunately, nothing is further from the truth.
When you pretend that everything is well with you and internalize issues or problems, your body reacts to the stress of those unresolved issues. The stress shows itself through high blood pressure, rashes, ulcers, sleeplessness, tears, outbursts and other ailments.
Do you ever wonder why it is more acceptable or preferable to suffer in silence, rather than confront the problems, pressures and people who cause you pain or discomfort? It could be that we’ve gotten comfortable wearing masks instead of making waves. There is a time and a place for everything and bad behavior shouldn’t be tolerated, especially at the risk of you being physically or emotionally harmed. Standing up and speaking your peace may not be comfortable, but it can be liberating.
True healing will begin when we are bold enough to remove our masks and let others see who we really are (pains and flaws) without worrying about what they will think. Your transparency may encourage someone else to remove their mask and begin their own journey toward healing.
Take action now: Meditate on James 5:16 – “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results”. (New Living Translation)
Embrace this truth: Bandaids don’t heal wounds. They only cover them.