My parents separated and divorced when I was 10 years old. Although my parents had plenty of loud disagreements, it wasn’t as common for parents to split up then as it is now. I now understand that having a home filled with peace and mutual respect between husbands and wives is vital to having a great marriage.
I can still remember how confused I was in the first few days after we left my dad. Although my mom separated from my dad for her own peace of mind, I was concerned about how our absence hurt my dad and how alone he must have felt without us. I cried many nights, hoping that the nightmare would end and that my parents would reconcile. That never happened and both of my parents eventually got married to other people. I guess that both my mom and dad learned from their failed marriage to one another, because both sets of parents will celebrate 40 years of marriage to their respective spouses.
One thing that stands out with me about my dad is that he never, ever missed a beat in his responsibilities when it came to supporting his children. He attended every concert, every track meet and every game that we participated in and he continued to do so even when we played sports or participated in programs as adults. He was in the stands or audience smiling proudly and cheering for us. My dad is close to 80 years old, but he is still my hero and his legacy of love and support will live on long after he’s gone.
I’d like to encourage men to keep a visible presence in your children’s lives. It doesn’t matter if you and your child’s mother don’t get along. Love your children more than you despise their mother. They need you.
Take action now: Meditate on Malachi 4:6 : He will convince parents to look after their children and children to look up to their parents. If they refuse, I’ll come and put the land under a curse.” (The Message Bible)
Embrace this truth: Being a father is not a part-time job. It requires full-time commitment — forever.