I hit “Golden Girl” status a few years ago and my life hasn’t been the same since doing so. I have always prided myself on being the ultimate people person…you know the one who remembers everybody’s name, birthday, and the names of their children and their pets? Yep, that was me. I’ve always lived by the philosophy of showing interest in the minor details of another person’s life is what makes a great relationship.
Now, I’ll see at a person who looks vaguely familiar to me and I can’t remember their name and I even question if I actually know them! It’s frightening, especially when it happens with my own family members (I’m not kidding!). I’ll sometimes have a person’s name on the tip of my tongue and can’t retrieve it from my memory bank. What’s worse is being in a conversation with someone and then pausing in mid-sentence because I can’t remember simple words or what the conversation was about.
When I first began experiencing memory lapses, I began to worry that I was suffering from the beginning stages of memory loss associated with Alzheimer’s. Then it hit me: I’m simply getting older and experiencing what I like to refer to as Mental Pause. As frustrating as this newfound ailment is and knowing that my ability to remember will get worse, I take solace in knowing that there are millions of others just like me and most of them are in my close circle of friends, and not surprisingly, we’re approximately the same age. We extend a lot of grace to one another and we laugh out loud at the changes that we’re experiencing, because it really is comical. Here’s an example, a friend called one day to share with me that she believed that she had her first bout with Mental Pause. She said that she was in the shower a few hours earlier and she was soaked from head to toe, but at one point she couldn’t remember if she was getting out of the shower or getting in. I tried to comfort her by sharing what my mom often says to me, “keep living. It only gets better”. I didn’t tell her that my mom usually says this when I’m telling her about strange occurrences in my house, such as my keys disappearing when I know for a fact that I put them in my purse, and then finding them in the pantry or some other odd place. Hmmmm, I’m starting to wonder now if my mom has been mocking me all these years…
Take action now: Meditate on Proverbs 16:31 – “ Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained by living a godly life.”(New Living Translation).
Embrace this truth: Every candle on your birthday cake is a blessing.