Ask any father about his love for his children and most are quick to say that although they are thrilled to have a son (or sons) to help carry the family surname to the next generation, it’s their daughters who win their hearts – hands down. Daddy is the first man that a girl loves and more times than not, she will base future relationships with men on how healthy (or not) her relationship with her father was while she was growing up.
Unfortunately, it’s quite common for many girls to grow up without establishing a relationship with their father so they are unsure about what positive male/female relationships look like and they “wing it” when they begin dating. Add to that equation that many young men are also being raised without their fathers and it’s a recipe for dysfunction and disaster…it’s the blind leading the blind because one cannot replicate or duplicate what one has never seen emulated.
The bad news is that many boys and girls (men and women) never get the attention or affirmation that they seek from their earthly father. The Good News is that God (the Father) sees your worth and value so be encouraged knowing that although you may be hurt by what you feel that you didn’t get from your earthly father…God loves you with an everlasting love and to Him you and will always be Daddy’s Girl!
Tune into http://www.womensworshipfest.org to hear me live on the Touch A Heart radio program on Monday, February 24, 2014 at 5pm PST, as I discuss my upcoming conference for teen girls being raised without a father. Don’t miss it!
Most people have personal stories to tell of being treated unjustly, mistreated, overlooked or misused at some point. These injustices may have been experienced at the workplace, at school, in business dealings or even in the home with loved ones. The actions may have been as subtle as not being acknowledged for a job well-done, overlooked for a promotion or ignored by someone of influence. Sometimes the actions are blatant; in the form of verbal or physical abuse. In any case, the pain can linger and can cause feelings of anger or bitterness towards the offender.
Did you know that by allowing yourself to marinate in the stew of bitterness, you create an atmosphere for various types of illnesses, such as ulcers or migraines? Don’t do that to yourself! Keep in mind that the way that others treat you is not necessarily because of a deficiency in you. Many times there is something else going on with them, which has absolutely nothing else to do with you and sometimes you may happen to be their closest or easiest target. Remind yourself that sometimes the person who is persecuting you has often been persecuted themselves. You can diffuse any situation by how you react.
Take action now: Meditate on Corinthians 4:8-9: We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed (NIV)
Embrace this truth: Everybody won’t appreciate the value you bring to the table, but as long as you know your worth, you can’t be held back.
Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and I’m sure you’re excited and filled with anticipation of what the day (or night) will bring, right? No? If not, then chances are you one of the many unmarried or single people who wish that February 14 would quietly disappear from the calendar, because of all the focus on couples and romance. What’s a girl or guy to do when there is no significant other? While everyone is making plans for romantic candlelit dinners and ordering roses for their sweetheart, there’s no reason why you can’t do the same and treat yourself! Don’t you think you deserve to be treated well! Who has your best interest at heart better than you?
I am happily married, but I thoroughly enjoy Me Time! While I’m quite comfortable sitting in a restaurant and enjoying a meal alone or going to the movies solo, I realize that everybody is not comfortable doing the same. If you want to celebrate yourself, but feel uneasy about doing so by yourself on Valentine’s Day, go ahead and make it a group effort. Make plans with a few confident and fun-loving single friends and make the day memorable! Here are a few ideas: 1) Mani’s/pedi’s, massages and facials are always more fun with others. You can catch up on one another’s life and chat while being pampered, 2) Take a dance class and dance the blues away! Most classes offer dancing afterwards, 3) Show love by volunteering to help those who are less fortunate or by taking an elderly family member to dinner. Chocolate will melt and flowers wilt, but giving of yourself leaves an impact forever and that is really what LOVE is all about…
Take action now: Meditate on 1 John 3:1a – Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God. (NKJV)
Embrace this truth: You are loved!
Few things drive me crazier than someone giving me an excuse as to why they cannot or did not do something. I’m sure you’ve heard it before: “I know I should, but”…, “I started to, but…”, “I would, but…”, “I was going to, but...”, I wanted to, but…”. Let me lovingly and strongly encourage you to GET OFF YOUR BUT! Living a life filled with excuses (and buts) is like a car stuck in the mud – you won’t get anywhere without some traction.
It’s understandable that fear of the unknown of what lies ahead can get in the way of making progress and may actually keep you from taking any action at all. A couple of statements that have stayed with me is you have nothing to fear, but fear itself and that fear is simply (f)alse (e)vidence (a)ppearing (r)eal. Remember how we got over our fear of the Boogey Man once we realized that he wasn’t real? That’s how we should tackle any current fears. (click here to read in its entirety).
Sometimes we are fearful for what we think will happen and that causes us to miss out on some opportunities. Here are some examples: you hesitate reaching out to someone that you’ve had a disagreement with but you don’t know how they’ll respond to your gesture, only to later find out that they wanted to reach out to you first, but they thought you would react negatively to them. Another missed opportunity may happen when you contemplate volunteering to help someone with their business or ministry, but you don’t think they’ll accept your offer of assistance and then you realize you’re a perfect fit AND they had no idea that you were willing to help them. You will never realize your full potential by sitting on the sidelines. Life is meant to be live to the fullest.
Take action now: Meditate on Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome. (AMP)
Embrace this truth: Live full and die empty. In other words, don’t let your gifts and talents get buried with you at the cemetery. Use them now!